How Do I Write a Letter to My Husband During Difficult Times?

Published February 24, 2021
man at home reading the mail

Writing a letter to your husband or partner during difficult times can help you express what's on your mind in a thoughtful manner, while also giving him time to process what you've written. If you aren't sure where to start, you can use a sample letter that focuses on your given situation as a template for your letter to your husband.

Letter to My Husband During Difficult Times

When writing a letter to your husband or partner during challenging moments within your relationship, there are a few tips to keep in mind.

  1. Begin by freewriting about what you want to get across to your husband or partner.
  2. If possible, give yourself a night to sleep on what you've written and re-read what you've written.
  3. Go through what you've written and highlight or underline the main points that feel the most important to share.
  4. Remove anything hurtful (name calling, blaming, etc.) and anything that may be misconstrued incorrectly.
  5. Create a rough draft of your letter and try to incorporate supportive words or words of appreciation depending on the situation.
  6. Take a night and sleep on it if possible.
  7. Refine your letter once more.
  8. Hand write your letter if possible- hand written versus email tends to feel more personal and meaningful.

How Can I Help My Husband Through a Hard Time Sample Letter

In the letter, acknowledge the situation, share supportive words, remind your partner of how strong he is and let your partner know you are there for him during this time. A sample letter may look like:

Dear (insert nickname for your partner),

I wanted to let you know how much I love you and that I know you are going through a very difficult and stressful time right now. In our (insert amount of time together) years together, I have watched you overcome so much and with each challenging experience, I grow more and more impressed by your resiliency and strength.

I love you so much and am here to support you through this. Whatever you need, I've got your back.

Love you,

(Insert your name)

How Do I Write an Emotional Letter to My Husband Sample Letter

In an emotional letter to your husband or partner you may want to include the reason why you are writing the letter, the feelings you are experiencing, and the outcome you are hoping for. An example of an emotional letter to your husband:

Dear (insert husband's name or nickname),

I'm writing this letter to you so I can tell you how I feel. You know I can sometimes stumble on my words when it comes to emotions, so I figured I'd give you something tangible to share how I've been feeling.

I wanted to let you know how much I love you and care about you. Although these past few months have been stressful, my love for you has never been stronger. I want to continue to work on our relationship together. I know we can make it through this moment together. You mean so much to me and I'm so grateful for the beautiful life we've built together.

I will always love you,

(Insert your name)

man reading the letter

How Can I Help My Partner Through a Difficult Time Sample Letter

If your partner has experienced a loss, or another sudden difficult life change, in the letter you may want to acknowledge the situation, reinforce your support and love for him, and let him know you are there for him. A sample letter of helping your partner through a difficult time:

Dear (insert nickname for your partner),

While it's impossible for me to know exactly what you're going through right now, I know you are in a lot of pain. I want you to know how much I love you and care about you. You are the strongest and kindest person I know, and I'm so grateful to have such a loving and supportive partner.

You've always been there for me during painful moments that I've experienced, and I just want to remind you that it's okay to lean on me - that's what I'm here for. No matter what you need, I will be there for you, regardless of how long you need.

I love you so much,

(Insert your name)

Letter to My Husband During Separation

If you write a letter to your husband or partner during your separation, consider the main point of giving him the letter, and include your candid thoughts and feelings. Because you are writing something down, be mindful that if you end up going through divorce court, this can be used as a form of evidence. Be sure to write the address on the letter carefully so it arrives at your ex's current new location if you're mailing it instead of hand delivering it.

Dear (insert husband's name),

I wanted to reach out and let you know how grateful I am for the past (insert amount of time) years of marriage to you. While I'm not sure if we will get back together in the future, I hope we can at least rekindle the friendship we once had.

I miss laughing with you and hearing about your day. I miss your smile and your delicious cooking. Most of all, I miss just spending time with you. I know this separation is supposed to give us clarity, and I'm grateful we both are taking the time to figure out our individual needs.

I'm excited to reconnect with you and talk about what we both want out of this relationship.

With love,

(Insert your name)

Sample Letter to Husband to Save Marriage

If you are writing a letter to your husband or partner in hopes of reviving your marriage, just make sure you have appropriate expectations. He may or may not be in the same emotional space as you are, or he may be ready to move on. In your letter, include why you are writing to him, what you hope the outcome will be, and the work you are willing to put into making the marriage healthier. A sample letter to your husband to work on your marriage:

Dear (Insert husband's name),

I know that past several months have been especially hard on our relationship, but I'm also aware that we've been growing more distant over the past few years. I wanted to reach out to you to acknowledge my role in our relationship and how I'd like to do things differently if we choose to stay together.

I haven't been up front with you about my needs and expecting you to read my mind isn't fair to you and has only increased the distance between us. That's not what I want. I want to be able to tell you what I need out of our relationship and have those needs met, and I want you to be able to do the same with me.

While I know this is a two-way street, I want you to know I would like to work on our relationship together. I am willing to put in the effort every day to make our relationship stronger and more loving. I know we discussed this in the past, but if you would like to give our relationship another shot, I would like to try couple's therapy with you.

I love you so much and want us both to be happy. Take as long as you need to decide what you want - I'll be here.

With love,

(Insert your name)

woman writing letter

Letter to Husband About Feeling Unwanted

If you have a difficult time expressing your feelings or needs in person to your husband or partner, writing a letter can help you express yourself in a thoughtful manner. If you are feeling disconnected from your partner, be sure the letter focuses on how you are feeling versus blaming him. A sample letter to your husband or partner about feeling unwanted:

Dear (Insert Husband's name or nickname),

I wanted to start off by saying how much I love you and cherish our relationship. I know relationships grow and change over time, and I wanted to share how I've been feeling lately.

While I know you love me, I haven't really felt wanted lately. I am in no way blaming you, but wanted to express what I need to feel wanted so you aren't left guessing or wondering why I've distanced myself.

I love when you kiss me in the morning, hold my hand, and tell me that you love me. These few simple acts every day really make a huge difference to me and make me feel loved and wanted. I hope you too can share with me a few things I can do to make you feel loved every day as well.

Yours forever,

(Insert your name)

Letter to Husband During Hard Times

Writing a letter to your husband or partner during a difficult moment in your relationship can be a great way to express what you're feeling in a thoughtful way. You may even want to include a love my husband quote to convey your true feelings.

How Do I Write a Letter to My Husband During Difficult Times?